بچوں کے ساتھ گفتگو کا انداز اور الفاظ کا استعمال

یوں تو بچے عموماً شرارتی ہوتے ہیں لیکن بعض بچے بے حد ضدی بھی ہوتے ہیں جن سے کوئی کام کرانا مشکل ہی نہیں بلکہ ناممکن بھی ہوتا ہے تاہم امریکی نیورولینگویسٹک اور ہپناٹزم کی ماہر خاتون کا کہنا ہےکہ اگر بچے کہنا نہ مانتے ہوں تو ان سے الفاظ تبدیل کرکے اپنی مرضی سے کام لیا جاسکتا ہے۔
ہارلے کے مطابق الفاظ کا انداز بچوں کو فرمانبردار بناسکتا ہے اور اس کے ذریعے وہ کوئی بھی کام کرسکتے ہیں۔ انہوں نے اپنی نئی کتاب ’’ورڈز دیٹ ورکس‘‘ میں اس کا تفصیلی جائزہ پیش کیا ہے اور وہ بچوں کے رویوں سے پریشان والدین کے لیے یہ تجاویز پیش کرتی ہیں جنہیں آزمانے میں کوئی ہرج نہیں۔ سائنسی پیمانے پر ثابت یہ الفاظ بچوں پر اثر کرتے ہیں مثلاً ’ مت کرو‘ کی جگہ ’ شکریہ‘ کہہ کر بچوں کو کوئی حکم دیا جائے تو اس کا فوری اثر ہوگا۔
’’ناں‘‘ کی جگہ ’’ہاں‘‘ منفی کی جگہ مثبت:
’’ اپنا کمرہ گندا مت کرو‘‘ اور یہ ’’نہ کرو اور وہ نہ کرو‘‘ کی بجائے مثبت جملے استعمال کیے جائیں جو بچوں پر جادو کی طرح اثر کرتے ہیں کیونکہ انکاری جملے بچوں پر منفی اثر ڈالتے ہیں اس لیے اس کی بجائے بچوں سے کہیں کہ ،چلو کمرہ صاف کرتے ہیں، جوتے اسٹینڈ پر رکھتے ہیں اور کھلونے الماری میں۔‘ یہ جملے بچے پر مثبت اثر ڈالیں گے اور وہ عمل کرنے لگیں گے۔
بچوں کے بہت سے انتخابات پیش کیجئے:
روزانہ مائیں بچوں کو یہ کہتی ہیں، ’ جلدی کرو اسکول یونیفارم پہنو،‘ اور یہ جملہ بچوں پر اثر نہیں کرتا اس کی جگہ بچوں کے سامنے بہت سے انتخاب پیش کریں، مثلاً آج اسکول میں کھانے کے لیے کیا لے جاؤ گے یا نیا یونیفارم پہنوگے یا پرانا والا۔ اور بچوں سے اس کو سوالیہ انداز میں پیش کریں اس طرح کے جملے بچوں پر بہت اچھا اثر ڈالتے ہیں۔
اسی طرح بچوں کو ہوم ورک کرانے کے لیے بھی چوائس پیش کریں، مثلاً کیا تم پہلے اردو کا کام کروگے یا اپنے ہفتہ وار پروجیکٹ کرنا چاہوگے۔ ان الفاظ سے بچے ذہنی طور پر کام کے لیے تیار ہوجاتے ہیں اسی طرح کھانا کھلانے کے لیے بچوں سے معلوم کرنے کی بجائے ان کے سامنے بہت سے کھانوں کے آپشن رکھیں۔
’’ کب‘‘ کا استعمال:
ماہرین کے مطابق ’’کب‘‘ کا لفظ اگر درست طور پر استعمال کیا جائے تو وہ ایک اہم قوت رکھتا ہے۔ والدین بچوں کے لیے اس لفظ کو درست جگہ استعمال کرکے اہم کام لے سکتے ہیں۔ مثال کے طور پر ،تم اپنا ہوم ورک کب ختم کروگے، ہمیں کھانا کھانا ہے یا ، یا جب تم یہ کام کرلوگے تو ہم باہر چکر لگانے چلیں گے۔ اس جملے میں بچے کے لیے ایک کام ہے اور ایک پرکشش تفریح۔ اچھے سیلزمین بھی ان ہی جملوں کو استعمال کرتے ہیں۔ اسی طرح بچوں کو اسکول کا کام کرواتے وقت یہ کہیں کہ ’ جب تم سبق یاد کرلوگے تو تمہیں خود ہی احساس ہوجائے گا کہ یہ کتنا آسان کام تھا۔‘
والدین اور بچوں کے درمیان زبان کا رشتہ:
درست زبان استعمال کرکے اپنے اور بچے کے درمیان سمجھ بوجھ کا ایک مضبوط رشتہ بنائیں۔ بچوں سے اس طرح کے جادوئی جملے کہیں کہ’’ میں تمہاری طرح یہ سمجھ سکتا یا سکتی ہوں کہ کتنے سارے کام ہیں‘‘ یا ’’ تم میرے جیسے ہواور یہ جان سکتے ہوکہ ہوم ورک کرنا کتنا آسان ہے۔‘‘ میرے جیسا یا تمہارے جیسا لفظ بچے کا حوصلہ بڑھاتے ہیں اور وہ کام پر آمادہ ہوتا ہے۔
’شکریہ کا لفظ پہلے ادا کریں نہ کہ بعد میں :
بچے اپنے والدین کو خوش کرنا چاہتے ہیں اور وہ اس کی پذیرائی بھی چاہتے ہیں۔ اس لیے اگلی مرتبہ بچوں کو ہاتھ دھونے، ٹی وی بند کرنے یا پانی دینے سے قبل ’شکریہ‘ کا لفظ کہیں جس سے وہ عمل کی جانب راغب ہوتے ہیں اور کام کرتے ہیں۔
ہر کام کی وجہ بیان کریں:
بچے تجسس رکھتے ہیں اور ہرکام کی وضاحت چاہتے ہیں اس لیے ان میں ایک حد تک کاموں کی سمجھ پیدا کرنا ضروری ہے۔ اسی لیے کوئی بھی کام کروانے سے قبل بچوں کو اس کی مختصر وجہ بیان کرنا ضروری ہوتا ہے۔ مثلاً اس ماہ کپڑے نہیں خرید سکتے کیونکہ ایک بڑا خرچ سامنے آگیا ہے۔ اس سے بچہ مطمئن ہوجاتا ہے۔
’سنو‘ اور ’اگرسوچو‘ جیسے جملے:
بچوں کو کام کی تحریک دینے والے طاقتور الفاظ میں سے 2 تو الفاظ ہیں ’سنو‘ اور ’ ذرا سوچو تو‘۔ مثلاً سنو ہمیں یہ کام کرنا ہے کیونکہ نہ ہونے کی صورت میں یہ نقصان ہوسکتا ہے یا ’ اگر سوچو توکہ ہوم ورک کرلوگے تو کتنا اچھا ہوگا۔‘ ایسے جملے بچوں پر اثر انداز ہوتے ہیں اور اس طرح آپ ان سے کوئی بھی کام کرواسکتےہیں۔
بچوں کا شکایتی لہجہ:
بہت سے بچے والدین سے ہر معاملے کی شکایت کرتے ہیں اس کا ایک حل یہ ہے کہ آپ ان کی وہی شکایت ان پر دوبارہ لوٹا دیں لیکن اس میں اس کا حل ہو اور وہ بھی بہت مؤثر انداز میں پیش کیا جائے۔ اگر بچہ کہے کہ گرمی لگ رہی ہے تو آپ کہیے، ’ اوہ! تو آپ کو قدرے ٹھنڈ چاہیے تو اس کے لیے کھڑکی کھول دیتے ہیں یا اپنی جیکٹ اتار دو۔ ‘ آپ دیکھیں کہ اس طرح بار بار شکایت کرنے والا بچہ مطمئن ہوکر خاموش ہوجائے گا

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Masala Bread Toast

Masala Bread Toast



This Masala Bread Toast is simple and can be done in 5 minutes.
 if the ingredients are already prepped. 
This can be a healthy snack idea for kids 
since it has many vegetables in it. 

Prep time: 10 minutes

Cook time: 10 minutes 

Number of servings: 4-5 persons

Ingredients

Bread Slices

Onion   - 1 no

Tomato - 1 no

Carrot - 1 cup

Cabbage - 1 cup

Capsicum - 1/2 cup

Beans - 1/2 cup

Green Chili - 3 nos

Mustard Seeds - 1/2 tsp

Cumin Seeds - 1/2 tsp

Turmeric Powder - 1/4 tsp

Chili Powder - 1 tsp

Garam Masala - 1/4 tsp

Curry Leaves

Coriander Leaves

Juice of 1/2 Lemon

Butter

Salt

Oil

Method 

1. Heat some oil in a pan and add some mustard seeds and cumin seeds 
2. After the mustard seeds splutter, add onions, green chilies, curry leaves and saute them 
3. Add some beans, capsicum, carrot, cabbage and tomatoes.
4. Add salt, turmeric powder and chili powder and saute them for about 5 minutes 
5. Add some garam masala and coriander leaves and squeeze some lemon juice
6. The masala is done, set this aside 
7. Toast some bread slices with some butter 
8. Apply the cooked vegetable masala on top of the toasted bread slices 
9. Serve the Masala Bread Toasts with some ketchup 

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Palak Poori

Palak Poori | Spinach Puri

We all would have had masala poori, chole batura but have you tried Palak Poori? This is an easy recipe where you add palak along with some spices to elevate the flavor. This is also a smart way to hide the greens if your kids are picky eaters. Give this recipe a try, am sure that you will love this. 
Ingredients

Prep time: 15 minutes

Cook time: 20 minutes 

Number of Servings: 4 persons 

Ingredients

Wheat flour - 2 cups
Salt to taste
Water
Oil for frying

For Palak Puree
Palak leaves - 1 bunch
Green chili - 2 nos
Water

Method

1. Blanch green chilies and spinach leaves for about 4 minutes. 
2. Let it cool and grind it to a fine paste. 
3. In a bowl, take 2 cups of wheat flour and add the palak puree to it. 
4. Knead the mixture into a dough. 
5. Take small balls of the dough and flatten it to make pooris.
6. Heat some oil for deep frying and add the poori's to the hot oil and fry them till they are cooked. 
7. Serve the Palak Pooris hot with some channa masala. 



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Dhaba Style Chana Masala

Chana Masala is a very spicy and delicious side dish. Chana masala is a very simple dish which is easy and quick to prepare, and it comes in several varieties. One such insanely famous varieties of this dish is the Dhaba style Chana Masala, where the taste can almost never be duplicated. We somehow tried and did duplicate the taste! So, we couldn't possibly keep this delicious recipe to ourself. So get those aprons on and get cooking! 

Ingredients:
Chickpea - 100 ml (Soaked)
Water
Cooking soda - 1/4 tsp.
Salt to taste

Muslin Cloth 
Cinnamon - 1 no.
Black Cardamom - 2 no.'s
Clove - 4 to 5 no.'s
Tea powder - 1 & 1/2 tsp.

Ghee - 2 tsp.
Grated Onion - 2 no.'s
Pounded Ginger - 1 tsp.
Grated Tomato - 2 no.'s
Turmeric powder - 1/2 tsp.
Chili powder - 2 tsp.
Coriander powder - 1 & 1/2 tsp.
Garam Masala powder - 1 tsp.
Cumin powder - 1 tsp.
Dry Ginger powder - 1 tsp.
Salt to taste
Yogurt/Curd - 3/4 cup
Few chopped Coriander leaves
Green chilli - 3 to 4 no.'s slit
Ginger julienne

Method:
1. Take a muslin cloth. Add cinnamon, black cardamom, cloves and some tea to the cloth and tie it up.
2. Take a pressure cooker, add chickpeas, water (water should cover the chickpeas completely), cooking soda, salt, and the tied muslin cloth. Pressure cook it for 4 to 5 whistles.
3. Take a wide saucepan, Add ghee, grated onion, and pounded ginger to the pan and saute well.
4. Once the raw smell goes off, add grated tomato, turmeric powder, chilli powder, coriander powder, garam masala powder, cumin powder, dry ginger powder and salt. Saute it well.
5. Add yogurt/curd and some coriander leaves. Close it with a lid for a few minutes.
6. Remove the muslin cloth and add the cooked chickpeas to the masala.
7. Check for seasoning.
8. Garnish it with slitted green chillies, ginger julienne and coriander leaves. Close it for few minutes. 
9. Dhaba Style Chana Masala is ready to be served!

Best with:
This dish is best had with some Indian bread like naan, Roti, Chapati, or Paratha! 

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The 12 Best Foods to Eat in the Morning

  

Despite what you may have heard, eating breakfast isn't necessary for everyone.

In fact, skipping breakfast may be better than eating many unhealthy breakfast foods.

You can read about the worst breakfast foods here: 10 Worst Foods to Eat in the Morning.

However, eating the right foods can give you energy and prevent you from eating too much during the rest of the day.

Here are the 12 best foods you can eat in the morning.

1. Eggs

Eggs are undeniably healthy and delicious.

Studies have shown eating eggs at breakfast increases feelings of fullness, reduces calorie intake at the next meal and helps maintain steady blood sugar and insulin levels .

In one study, men ate either eggs or a bagel for breakfast. They felt more satisfied after the eggs, and took in fewer calories during the rest of the day .

Additionally, egg yolks contain lutein and zeaxanthin. These antioxidants help prevent eye disorders like cataracts and macular degeneration .

Eggs are also one of the best sources of choline, a nutrient that's very important for brain and liver health .

They're also high in cholesterol, but don't raise cholesterol levels in most people. In fact, eating whole eggs may reduce heart disease risk by modifying the shape of LDL, increasing HDL and improving insulin sensitivity .

What's more, three large eggs provide about 20 grams of high-quality protein.

Eggs are also very versatile. For example, hard-boiled eggs make a great portable breakfast that can be prepared ahead of time.

BOTTOM LINE:Eggs are high in protein and several important nutrients. They also promote fullness and help you eat fewer calories.

2. Greek Yogurt

Greek yogurt is creamy, delicious and nourishing.

It is made by straining whey and other liquid from the curds, which produces a creamier yogurt that is more concentrated in protein.

Protein has been shown to reduce feelings of hunger, and has a higher thermic effect than fat or carbs .

The term "thermic effect" refers to the increase in metabolic rate that occurs after eating.

Yogurt and other dairy products can also help with weight control, because they increase levels of hormones that promote fullness, including PYY and GLP-1 .

Full-fat yogurt also contains conjugated linoleic acid (CLA), which may increase fat loss and decrease breast cancer risk .

Certain types of Greek yogurt are good sources of probiotics, like Bifidobacterium, which help your gut stay healthy. To make sure your yogurt contains probiotics, look for the phrase "contains live and active cultures" on the label .

Try topping Greek yogurt with berries or chopped fruit in order to increase the meal's vitamin, mineral and fiber content.

BOTTOM LINE:Greek yogurt is high in protein, helps reduce appetite and may aid with weight loss. Certain types also contain beneficial probiotics.

3. Coffee

Coffee is an amazing beverage to start your day.

It's high in caffeine, which has been shown to improve mood, alertness and mental performance.

Even small amounts of caffeine can achieve these effects .

An analysis of 41 studies found the most effective dose to be 38–400 mg per day, to maximize the benefits of caffeine while reducing side effects .

This is roughly 0.3 to 4 cups of coffee per day, depending on how strong it is .

Caffeine has also been shown to increase metabolic rate and fat burning. In one study, 100 mg of caffeine per day helped people burn an extra 79–150 calories over a 24-hour period .

Coffee is also rich in antioxidants, which reduce inflammation, protect the cells lining your blood vessels and decrease diabetes and liver disease risk .

BOTTOM LINE:Having a cup of coffee is a great way to start your day. The caffeine in it may improve mood, mental performance and metabolism.

4. Oatmeal

Oatmeal is the best breakfast choice for cereal lovers.

It's made from ground oats, which contain a unique fiber called beta-glucan. This fiber has many impressive health benefits, including reduced cholesterol .

In addition, beta-glucan is a viscous fiber that promotes feelings of fullness. One study found that beta-glucan increased levels of the "fullness hormone" PYY and that higher doses had the greatest effect .

Oats are also rich in antioxidants, which protect their fatty acids from becoming rancid. These antioxidants may also help protect heart health and decrease blood pressure .

Although oats don't contain gluten, they're often processed in the same facilities as gluten-containing grains. Researchers have found that most oats are indeed contaminated with other grains, especially barley .

Therefore, people with celiac disease or gluten sensitivity should choose oats that have been certified as gluten-free.

One cup of cooked oatmeal contains about 6 grams of protein, which won't provide the benefits of a higher-protein breakfast. Oatmeal made from steel-cut oats provides about twice as much protein.

To boost the protein content of an oatmeal breakfast, prepare it with milk instead of water or serve it with a side of eggs or a piece of cheese.

BOTTOM LINE:Oatmeal is rich in beta-glucan fiber, which lowers cholesterol and increases feelings of fullness. It also contains antioxidants.

5. Chia Seeds

Chia seeds are extremely nutritious.

They're also one of the best sources of fiber around.

In fact, one ounce (28 grams) of chia seeds provides an impressive 11 grams of fiber per serving.

What's more, a portion of the fiber in chia seeds is viscous fiber.

Viscous fiber absorbs water, which increases the volume of food moving through your digestive tract and helps you feel full and satisfied .

In a small study, people with diabetes who ate chia seeds for 12 weeks experienced reduced hunger, along with improvements in blood sugar and blood pressure .

Chia seeds are also high in antioxidants. They protect your cells from unstable molecules called free radicals, which are produced during metabolism .

In another study of people with diabetes, chia seeds decreased the inflammatory marker CRP by 40%. Elevated CRP is a major risk factor for heart disease .

However, one serving of chia seeds provides about 4 grams of protein, which may not be optimal for breakfast.

High-Protein Chia Seed Pudding

Ingredients:

• 1 ounce (28 grams) dried chia seeds.
• 1 scoop whey protein powder.
• 1 cup coconut milk or almond milk.
• Half a cup of berries.
• Stevia or other sweetener to taste, if desired.

Directions:

Combine all ingredients in a bowl and mix well. Cover bowl and refrigerate for at least one hour.

BOTTOM LINE:Chia seeds are high in fiber and packed with antioxidants that may reduce inflammation and decrease disease risk.

6. Berries

Berries are delicious and packed with antioxidants.

Popular types include blueberries, raspberries, strawberries and blackberries.

They're lower in sugar than most fruits, yet higher in fiber. In fact, raspberries and blackberries each provide an impressive 8 grams of fiber per cup.

What's more, one cup of berries contains only 50–85 calories, depending on the type.

Berries also contain antioxidants called anthocyanins, which protect your heart and may help you age better .

Berries have been shown to reduce markers of inflammation, prevent blood cholesterol from becoming oxidized and keep the cells lining your blood vessels healthy .

A good way to add berries to your breakfast is to eat them with Greek yogurt or cottage cheese.

BOTTOM LINE:Berries are high in fiber and low in calories. They're also rich in antioxidants that may decrease the risk of disease.

7. Nuts

Nuts are tasty, satisfying and nutritious.

They're a great addition to breakfast because they are filling and help prevent weight gain .

Even though nuts are high in calories, studies suggest you do not absorb all of the fat in them.

In fact, your body only absorbs about 129 calories from a 28-gram (1-ounce) serving of almonds .

This may be true for some other nuts as well, although at this time only almonds have been tested.

Furthermore, nuts have been shown to improve heart disease risk factors, reduce insulin resistance and decrease inflammation .

All types of nuts are also high in magnesium, potassium and heart-healthy monounsaturated fat.

In addition, Brazil nuts are one of the best sources of selenium. In fact, just two Brazil nuts provide more than 100% of the recommended daily intake of selenium .

Nuts are also beneficial for people with diabetes. In one study, replacing a portion of carbs with 2 ounces of nuts led to reduced blood sugar and cholesterol levels .

Topping Greek yogurt, cottage cheese or oatmeal with 2 tablespoons of chopped nuts provides crunch and flavor, while increasing your breakfast's nutritional value.

BOTTOM LINE:Nuts are filling, nutrient-dense foods that may help reduce heart disease risk and improve blood sugar control.

8. Green Tea

Green tea  is one of the healthiest beverages on the planet.

It contains caffeine, which improves alertness and mood, along with raising metabolic rate .

Green tea provides only 35–70 mg of caffeine per cup, which is about half the amount in coffee.

Green tea may be especially helpful against diabetes. A review of 17 studies found that green tea  reductions in blood sugar and insulin levels .

It also contains an antioidant known as EGCG, which may protect the brain, nervous system and heart from damage .

Find a great selection of green tea here .

BOTTOM LINE:Green tea has many health benefits. It contains an antioxidant called EGCG, which has benefits for the brain and nervous system.

9. Protein Shake

Another great way to start your day is with a protein shake or smoothie.

Several types of protein powder can be used, including whey, egg, soy and pea protein.

However, whey protein is absorbed the most quickly by your body .

It has also been studied the most, and provides several health benefits. Additionally, it seems to reduce appetite more than other forms of protein.

One study compared four high-protein meals. They whey protein meal reduced appetite the most and led to the lowest calorie intake at the next meal .

In addition, whey protein can help lower blood sugar levels when consumed as part of a carb-containing meal. It can also preserve muscle mass during weight loss and aging .

Regardless of the type of protein powder used, a high-protein shake can be satisfying and filling. Add fruit, greens, nut butter or seeds to provide fiber and antioxidants.

BOTTOM LINE:A protein shake or smoothie is a great high-protein breakfast choice that promotes fullness and helps stabilize blood sugar levels.

10. Fruit

Fruit can be a delicious part of a nourishing breakfast.

All types of fruit contain vitamins, potassium, fiber and are relatively low in calories. One cup of chopped fruit provides about 80–130 calories, depending on the type.

Citrus fruits are also very high in vitamin C. In fact, a large orange provides more than 100% of the recommended daily intake of vitamin C.

Fruit is also very filling, due to its high fiber and water content.

Pair fruit with eggs, cheese, cottage cheese or Greek yogurt for a well-balanced breakfast that will sustain you for hours.

BOTTOM LINE:Fruit is a good source of vitamins, potassium and fiber. It also contains antioxidants that can help reduce disease risk.

11. Flaxseeds

Flaxseeds are incredibly healthy.

They're rich in viscous fiber, which helps you feel full for several hours after eating .

Flaxseeds may also improve insulin sensitivity and reduce blood sugar levels, as well as protect against breast cancer .

Two tablespoons of ground flaxseeds contain 3 grams of protein and 4 grams of fiber.

Try adding flaxseeds to Greek yogurt, cottage cheese or a smoothie to increase the fiber and antioxidant content of your breakfast.

Just make sure to choose ground flaxseeds or grind them yourself, because whole flaxseeds can't be absorbed by your gut and will simply pass through your system.

BOTTOM LINE:Flaxseeds are high in viscous fiber, which helps you feel full. They may also improve insulin sensitivity and reduce blood sugar levels.

12. Cottage Cheese

Cottage cheese is a fantastic breakfast food.

It's high in protein, which increases metabolism, produces feelings of fullness and decreases the "hunger hormone" ghrelin .

In fact, cottage cheese has been shown to be as filling and satisfying as eggs .

Full-fat cottage cheese also contains conjugated linoleic acid (CLA), which may promote weight loss .

1 cup of cottage cheese provides an impressive 25 grams of protein. Add berries and ground flaxseeds or chopped nuts to make it even more nutritious.

BOTTOM LINE:Cottage cheese is high in protein, which promotes feelings of fullness and increases your metabolic rate.

Take Home Message

Whether or not you eat breakfast is a personal choice.

If you do eat in the morning, make sure to start your day off right by fueling your body with these healthy and nutrient-dense foods.

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